imo if you’re going to call yourself queer and seek out queer community, you need to let go of the idea that the way people identify, present, and choose to interact with other queer people can be labeled and explained. queerness is about saying “fuck societal norms” and sometimes those societal norms include what you think lesbians, gay men, trans people, women, etc. look like, act like, sleep with, etc. queerness is in direct opposition to hard lines and strict definitions. if you are uncomfortable with that, you’re probably not ready to fully immerse in the queer community. get used to being confused and freaked out. that’s the point. celebrate it.
if you’re like. 14 and trans on tumblr rn and getting ur first anon hate from terfs. word of advice. stop responding to that shit. theyre only gonna send more, it’s only gonna make you spiral even if you put on a strong face. report + block messages as soon as they come in, don’t let them sit in your inbox it’s gonna make you feel like shit. turn off anon for a few days, block anyone suspicious in your notes liberally for a little while. repeat as needed. don’t give them the time of day. it sucks, but like. i dont know any trans person on the internet with any following who hasn’t gotten some disgusting messages. just. be safe yknow
so many young teens feel the need to have a snappy comeback, to explain you could never be cishet bc you’re actually t4t!! or whatever but like. just. don’t say any of that. they love that shit, they eat it up. do what u can to bore them into stopping. and sometimes they dont stop, and that sucks too but like. you do not want to get in public arguments with people who can hurt you more than you think they can, its not cowardly to delete discourse posts and shit if you feel like you can’t handle the notifications anymore. like just. you may not be able to completly prevent this stuff but take a few steps if you can, it will at least lower your chances
just a reminder - do NOT boycott streaming services or not watch new things. the unions have not called for one for a reason. for one, it affects residual payments, which as minimal as those currently are, actors are still getting them during this time, and for two, studios will use lack of viewership as an excuse to cancel shows because you are showing them there is no demand. it deeply affects the industry the writers and actors stand to come back to once the strike is over
Also: going to these places puts pressure and demand on the company. Demand they can’t meet without actors and writers. That puts stress on them, and stress is good.
^^^^ive been looking for a rb with this addition because YES. if a customer wants a burger and there is no cook to make it, that puts pressure on the owner to pay the cook what they want so the customer will still give them money. if there is no customer, the owner has no reason for the cook to make burgers
Stop watching IF AND ONLY IF the unions call for a boycott. For the time being since they haven’t, streaming the shows actually helps. You’re not crossing a picket line to watch because that picket line does not exist unless a boycott is called for.
forget fast fashion in 2023 the only viral trend i wanna see is workers unionizing
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Every time I see another thing like this, my firm adherence to the idea that history is complicated and big events can’t be laid at the feet of a single person gets a little shakier.
One of my favourite things about hanging out in the trans community is how it has and will continue to slowly erode my ability to blend into cishet dominated social settings. I’m just fundamentally on different wires now, and that’s great because I never liked those social settings anyway
cishet ppl will say shit like “if your boyfriend closes the fridge door with his hip he’s not a boyfriend” and expect you to understand what they mean then explode when you liken your gender to a wolf but in a girl way
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